Pretend or Pre-Tend?

Pretend or Pre-Tend?

Pretending is something most of us can relate to from childhood. Young children pretend play alone and with friends. It is fun to pretend you are a super hero, a cowboy riding a broomstick horse or a princess in beautiful clothing and precious jewels. They live in the moment, focused on the story in their imagination as they run, play and have fun.

Pretend: means to behave so as to make it appear that something is the case when in fact it is not; lay claim to it.

Pre: means before or prior to.

Tending: means to regularly or frequently behave in a particular way or have a certain characteristic; or to go or move in a particular direction.

During my research into the power and importance of creative imagination I was inspired to change my perspective around the deeper meaning of pretending. It is becoming much more accepted by humans that we live in a Universe made up of energy and frequency. (Remember humans once thought the earth was flat. How time have changed!)

There have been extensive studies and research by neuroscientists and metaphysicians around the powerful energy of our thoughts and feelings. When we think something, our brain releases the chemical peptides that we experience as emotions or feelings. The more we focus our energy on something it increases our vibrational frequency around that belief, attracting things in harmony with our dominant vibration.

Metaphysical teachers such as Neville Goddard, Charles Haanel and Ernest Holmes advocate the importance imagination. Creating the thing we desire in our mind through thought alone until we feel ourselves already living or experiencing this desire. Your Subconscious Mind does not know the difference between a real or an imagined experience. The chemical peptides released in the brain are the same whether you are physically doing something or simply imagining you are doing it.



Imagination: means the faculty or action of forming new ideas, or images or concepts of external objects not present to the senses; the ability of the mind to be creative or resourceful.

The key is to imagine ourselves living from our desires, not just thinking of our desires. If you are thinking ‘of’ something, you are separate from it. You are an onlooker, still experiencing the lack of the thing you want. If you think ‘from’ something, you are a part of it, in it, doing it, experiencing it in thought.

To think, feel and imagine something you wish to experience before (Pre) you can physically see, hear, taste, touch and smell is one of the keys to taking control of your life. The other key is to do this regularly or frequently (Tending) so you begin to create new neural pathways in your brain. The stronger the feeling of love, wholeness, freedom and bliss you can create through thought, the higher the vibration you radiate. Law of Attraction will bring to you things that match your frequency and align the people, circumstances and synchronistic events to fulfill your desires. The vital thing is to keep your mind focused as if the thing you desire is already happening or has happened. Live in the moment, in your imagination.



Jesus said in Matthew 18:2-4  “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.  Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”

What if the Kingdom of Heaven is not a place out there in the sky that we only access when we die?! What if, heaven is here, right now?

Is your life heavenly or a living hell? Your life experience is a direct result of your beliefs, habits, thoughts and feelings. You can create love, beauty, joy, bliss and peace in your world, or hate, ugliness, pain and fear! You have a choice. Doing nothing is still a choice.

Childhood pretending, imaginary play, is a training ground for adult life. From around 3 years of age we learn to pretend, we make believe and live in the now. Our brain waves are slower at this age enabling us to stay in tune with our creative inner spirit. The brain waves of children between the ages of 7 -12 are still relatively low so they can move between conscious analytical thought and their imaginary world fairly easily. According to Dr Joe Dispenza, by the time we are around 35 years old, we have become a bundle of conditioned reflexes allowing habitual thought and behaviour patterns to control us. It takes conscious effort to stop, break away from your daily routine and allow yourself time to relax, refocus and reconnect with yourself. He says you cannot create a new reality from the same personality that created where you are now. You have to become someone else through thought, imagination and pre-tending.

I would like to suggest that Pre-Tending is the adult version of childhood Pretending. Imagine your idea of Heaven. Focus on it regularly. As you change your thinking, you change the neural connections in your brain and body, and you start to become the person you intended to be. As you become her or him within so your world without will change to match your vibration.

If your life is not as you would want it to be as an adult, could it be that you have lost the ability to use your powerful imagination correctly? Have you succumbed to the opinions of others, conformed to invisible rules set out by parents, schools and peers? Are you ready to become child-like again and reignite your imagination? My creative workshops create an environment that reconnects you with the fun of play school yet with the adult structure and focus of self development.

If you are in need of some creative ‘me time’ where you can get away from your habits, routines and problems for a while, then join one of my monthly Creative Experience Workshops and experience the fun, possibility and inspiration for yourself. The next workshop is on Sunday 21st October 2018 10.30am – 4.30pm. For your investment of £97 will get you:

  • A minimum of one creative project that involves an element of recycling.
  • You’ll receive PDF notes to take away and reflect on the days topic.
  • You’ll receive one of my hand-drawn mandalas to colour after the workshop.
  • You’ll hear a brief overview of what Grief Recovery and Creative Self Discovery involve.
  • and receive light refreshments throughout the day in a safe, peaceful, comfortable environment.

Please email any questions or booking enquiries to or call Sandra on 0781 361 2955.

For further reading I can highly recommend ‘Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself’ by Dr Joe Dispenza